Helpful Tools

Until the addict is able to get to the root of his or her pain, the addiction will continue. While a licensed therapist or counselor might be the key for some, there are other resources available:

Therapy and Community

Books

These are three of the best.

Hooked by Joe S. McIlhaney Jr. M.D., Freda McKissic Bush M.D.

Society tells us that sex is an act of self-expression, a personal choice for physical pleasure that can be summed up in the ubiquitous phrase: “hooking up”. Millions of American teenagers and young adults are finding that the psychological baggage of such behavior is having a real and lasting impact on their lives. They are discovering that “hooking up” is the easy part, but “unhooking” from the bonds of a sexual relationship can have serious consequences. A practical look into new scientific research showing how sexual activity causes the release of brain chemicals, which then result in emotional bonding and a powerful desire to repeat the activity. This book will help parents and singles understand that “safe sex” isn’t safe at all; that even if they are protected against STDs and pregnancy, they are still hurting themselves and their partner.

Facing the Shadow by Patrick Carnes

Facing the Shadow is the innovative workbook that helps readers begin meaningful recovery from an often misunderstood addiction. This book guides readers through the first seven tasks in Dr. Patrick Carnes’ researched-based thirty-task model of treatment—the most respected therapy model available for treating sex addicts.

Out Of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes

Sex is at the core of our identities. And when it becomes a compulsion, it can unravel our lives.

Out of the Shadows is the premier work on this disorder, written by a pioneer in its treatment. Revised and updated to include the latest research–and to address the exploding phenomenon of cybersex addiction–this third edition identifies the danger signs, explains the dynamics, and describes the consequences of sexual addiction and dependency. With practical wisdom and spiritual clarity, it points the way out of the shadows of sexual compulsion and back into the light and fullness of life.